A Friday night ritual for me is often sitting quietly alone in front of my TV, cruising through various Teen/Coming of age films. Generally it will be a film where a young guy comes to grips with his secret male attraction. And since no guy or potential relationship is identical to the other. There are a constant set of variables. I could wax ecstatic of the multitude of same gender attractions and emotional attachments that may happen. However there are way too many elaborate and complicated scenarios to possibly cover them all in one post, so let me get to my own sentiments on these random films with a quantifiable story-line.
First I should recognize that in our own innocence, many of you like me, found a lusty and incredibly sexual fulfillment from a partner/friend in our youth. Then there are the rare few who shared something deeper with a friend. Perhaps you were like Evan and I, where we acknowledged our love by saying so daily. I recognize that many of you feel that it was just "Too Gay" to tell your wank partner, you loved him. However I bet that inside your soul you felt the sharing of an intimate moment sufficed some manner of love or appreciation for this person who was bold enough to expose his vulnerability with you. I Get that you don't see it as "Love", but you cannot deny there was a level of trust, which counts as a very high rank of inter-personal confidence. You may walk-away from an intimate experience and never contemplate another occurrence of the event, however inside you surely accept that he knows what was shared, and there was no blame to be spread.
So moving back to talk of my Friday night indulgence. The stories committed to film that delve into a dizzying array of physical or emotional variables that teen guys secretly find within their very own gender. It is often, that these tales remind me of my youth, and I find I am full of regret for opportunities I may have missed out on. Some of our loyal readers would clearly recall that your host has told of some incredibly memorable relationships. One steeped in love, another permeated with male libido and derelict public display of our playful pleasure . Honestly, I really did not leave much on the table as undone. Gladly some films sweetly depict how wonderful other guys "had-it". Why did I not get the chance to live a few more of those moments myself? This is a question, that burns through me. Yet how fine is it to indulge in someone else's life mysteries.
I guess this blog and the many many stories posted here tell the truths of our past. We are reminded of the events we knew first-hand, but I am pretty sure we slip into a dream-like escape. Deep into the possibilities that else we might have shared with someone regarded with fine reverence or desire.
~Eric
